I agree that you're attracted to what you're attracted to, but I don't think that gives you a right to be rude.Online dating is rough enough without some guy responding to a message by saying "hit the gym and then we'll talk" (totally true, totally happened to me.) These answers reinforced what I already knew to be true: We have to change the way we treat fat women.
Or are you trying to prove to yourself how much of a manly man you are? I also enjoy boundaries and people who know what affirmative consent looks like.That said, it's hard to be objective when someone is explaining why you don't give them an erection.With that in mind, I asked a group of anonymous men who refuse to date fat women to try and explain their feelings to me.I have experienced sexual assault and trauma in my life.A lot of fat women have -- the ACE scores study suggest that at least some cases of obesity are biologically related to childhood trauma -- but I don't need you to psychoanalyze me, to explain to me why I'm fat, or to try and "fix" me somehow. I got over guys who wanted to sleep with me but weren't willing to be seen in public with me a long time ago.