Then follows days, sometimes weeks of exchanging sms with more smileys than anyone can stand.
And then sometimes people hit it off and get together, and after many complicated commitments decide to call each other girlfriend and boyfriend.
To avoid being harassed as well as to be taken as “easy” or worse, Southern European women smile a little, ignore a little, and let the guy suffer and try hard to seduce them.
What happens to women who grew up in such setting when they end up in Norway?
Being used to be seduced for weeks and months by men, with flowers and travels and dreams come true? So second conclusion: Norwegian women are fearless.
Which is good, I guess, when you think in terms of gender balance, feministic battles etc. but very bad for those others who were not raised in the North and who try to adapt to these foreign codes of equality even on their way to the bedroom.
In Copenhagen, where every Friday and Saturday evening see some kind of meat market going on in town, people look at each other for minutes and hours accross the room (party, bar) until one of them comes up to the other and says “my place or your place? Or women just come up to a guy in a cafe, handing their number and saying “I like you, call me”.
Apparently Scandinavian women are not used at all to be told by men “no thank you I am not interested in having sex with strangers whom I’ve had no conversation with beforehand”.
In more machist societies like France or Italy, such open flirting from a woman will be seen as an invitation for all the men in the neighboorhood.
Some men (not all of course) already flirt heavily when uninvitied, so imagine if you actively seek attention.
The third basic principle, which is the most important of all, is the link between all the principles, the foundation of Norwegian seduction. Most would say that the French also drink alcohol, and that is true obviously.
But Norwegians as other Northern peoples like Britts, Danes, Swedes, Finns and Russians drink really a lot.