It seems my 'tone', as you term it, may have struck a chord as your pevious theads indicate you are coming from a place of emotional need which you're best advised to address before becoming embroiled in yet another unsatisfactory relationship with a member of the opposite sex.
Why not look to go for a drink and have days out with female friends?
I think there's nothing wrong with dating someone who is separated - as long as both people are happy with what's going on then it can be good I did wait a year after separating to start dating again but different people are comfortable with different things.
I suppose for me someone who was living in the same house as their ex would feel a bit odd tbh.
Perhaps you should be having lighter dates with more than one man?
Then perhaps you'd truly get to a position of freedom. Financial necessity often forces people to live together for a while after calling it a day, and it's possible to have emotionally detached from someone long before the decree absolute come through.
The OP reads more like you're thinking of how free he is and what sort of relationship you might have.
Meditrina - yes i'm sure im thinking of nice company from time to time!
Dahlen - I've had a very long time to process and deal with my feeling re my divorce and the relationship was dead for a long time before we "officially" split up - ut yes do know what you mean, it is necessary to work through, the hows and whys and move on.
met someone online, been chatting for weeks and met up a few days ago.
he seems nice - genuine and kind, and is keen for a second date.