She had become friends with a male colleague whom I met a couple of times when I was visiting her in the bay area. I never suspected anything was happening between them. If you keep chasing this pipe dream of having her, it'll just destroy the friendship you two have. These conversations happened over the course of about a year. I am transcribing them to the best of my recollection. Him: With all due respect, what happens between me and her is none of your business. And you sat there with a straight face pretending that wasn't true." "Yes. I just got caught up in it." "Did you...you love him? " "Between the multiple times you had sex, did you sleep in his arms naked? " "Yes, you remember me telling you that she was very suspicious of his friendship with me. She just wasn't as blind as me." "I am so sorry." "How many times did you meet her? " "Yes." "The whole reason she wanted to meet you was to be reassured that you and he weren't having a fling. And initially, I didn't feel too bothered by his trying to pursue my wife.
" "Because I want to know if this was a one off mistake or a prolonged affair." "It was....something in between." "As in? The pay was slightly less and the firm was smaller so I didn't fully understand the reason for her move. But she insisted it was because the work in San Diego was more "challenging" and offered better long term prospects. Indeed, we were able to spend more time together but our marriage was still long-distance, which brought with it the expected tensions. Same length but he is much thicker." "You measured it? I feel horrible." "And even after that, you slept with him again?